“I
will keep Christmas always, and strive to observe it all the year.” This
is Ebenezer Scrooge’s promise to
the Ghost of Christmas Future, as we witness his conversion in Charles
Dickens’s A Christmas Carol. Our family Christmas ritual includes both church services and our yearly viewing of “The Muppet Christmas
Carol,” a favorite from our children’s childhood,on Christmas Eve. (We also find time each Christmas
season to re-watch “Mr Magoo’s Christmas Carol,” a favorite from their parents’
generation). So Scrooge is on my mind. You could say this is a cultural rather than a specifically
religious or theological practice but for me it is bound up with all that is
wonderful, mysterious, full of a hidden and ever-growing joy in each year’s
celebration of the Mystery of the Incarnation.
“Keeping Christmas,” I’m coming to
see, is less about belief than about practice. It is in fact a "spiritual practice": something we do as a way of becoming more available to
the mysterious dimension of life, the dimension where love and hope and
compassion are active and transforming, and at work in the world.
The idea of the limitless mystery of Love
becoming a human being and living our lives with us is at the heart of
Christian meditations in this season -- indeed, always. But it is too big to explain or really
grasp in any way : the story of
the baby in the manger, the shepherds hearing the overflowing song of the angels,
the foreign wise men drawn to the birth of this Child -- these parts of the
story make it more friendly and familiar.
And I think that is also what my Christmas practices do for me: trimming the tree, shopping for gifts,
baking cookies, inviting people in for parties, caroling. All these are part of “keeping
Christmas” in our family, and the
process of making them happen continues to be formative for me. As we pull out the ornaments each year
and put them on the tree, we remember, as a family, the stories behind them --
the ornaments bought on vacations, given as gifts from grandmothers, the
ornaments that hung on my tree when I was growing up. And I reflect on the blessings of the years.
We
hear a lot in the Christmas season about the way it has all been taken over by
commercialism, or about all the stress that preparations cause those who feel
responsible for doing everything perfectly. Or the pressure to spend money we don’t have. Or of how hard it is -- and it is -- in
a time of grieving or loss. And none of this is untrue. I myself faced a scary health crisis one year around Christmas time, and since then every Christmas has become a celebration of what we DO have, whatever it is. The “things” and the people become incarnational symbols, in their
way, if we let them.
The practice of Gift-giving, for example, can easily become about the stuff, and about getting what we want. It is a real spiritual challenge not to
be overwhelmed by this. But
gift-giving is redeemed for me when I think of it as a practice of abundance. I usually try to do most of the
shopping, strategizing and wrapping early in December, so that when we get to
Christmas Eve it seems as if someone else might have brought all those presents
-- and whether or not we spend a lot of money on the gifts, I like to see a lot
of packages under the tree, thoughtful, sometimes homemade gifts - small things and big things, depending on what we are able to give. But it's the "gift" part that is best for me. Sometimes
I think my favorite moment on Christmas Day is in the early morning, before
everyone gets up, seeing an abundance of gifts under the lighted tree -- why
not receive this as a symbol of the overflowing Love whose mysterious coming we are
celebrating at this season?
It
is also a season to remember those in need, and our giving includes
donations to charities we care about.
We find to our great delight that some of our friends, and even our children, are making such
donations in our names these days and that is good.
Toys for the toy closet, food for the shelter. These are also part of the practice of “Keeping Christmas” - practices to sustain "all the year long."
Then
there is hospitality. “And let
each heart prepare a home/where such a mighty guest may come,” goes a line from
a favorite Advent hymn. Or “make your house fair as you are able, trim the
hearth and set the table. .. . . Love the Guest is on the Way.” It really is a joy to push the
furniture against the walls and “stage” our modest suburban house for a big
workplace Christmas potluck, with kids and families and caroling. Seeing the house full of people,
eating, visiting and even singing, is one of the great joys of the season for
me, even though it IS a lot of work to prepare and clean up. I do what I can to keep it simple, and the
whole process becomes spiritual practice for me.
And
yes. Singing, definitely a spiritual practice for me as more or less a lifetime
choir member. What I like about
Christmas caroling is that people can appreciate the spirit of it whether or
not they “agree with the words.” Or at least I hope this is true for many
people. I myself just love
Christmas carols -- know all the words, and find that singing carols at a
Christmas party is a wonderful way to quietly bring together the sense of
praise and wonder that I carry through the season, with the goodwill and fun
that comes with singing together - whether it’s “O Come all Ye Faithful,” or
“Chestnuts Roasting on an Open Fire,”
“Hark the Herald Angels Sing”
or “Deck the Halls”. It’s about practice, not about belief. The singing, not the words. But somehow the mystery and the wonder
and the mutual welcome that are at the heart of the season do creep into these
practice, and if we let them, they can change us, at least for a time.
Like
any spiritual practice, “Keeping Christmas” only works if it is freely chosen.
If someone tells you how you have to do it it becomes a performance, not a practice. The usual spiritual traps arise, especially for parents and hosts: perfectionism, the need to do it
better than other people, the preoccupation with what’s in it for me -- all these motives can get in the way
and make the practice a chore and not a source of openness and joy. But I have to say this year has been a
good one for me, and when it is freely entered, the practice of Keeping
Christmas can open up other ways of “finding God in all things,” which is what
the spiritual life is about anyway.
It’s what the Mystery of the Incarnation is about, too - not a
spirituality that goes apart from the world of stuff and busy-ness, but one
that comes right into the midst of it all to make us fully alive.
And
so, as Tiny Tim would say, “God bless us, every one.”
